COUNSELLING FOR LOW SELF-ESTEEM & CONFIDENCE BUILDING
IMPROVE LOW SELF-ESTEEM WITH THESE SMALL CHANGES
HOW CAN COUNSELLING HELP ME TO IMPROVE MY SELF ESTEEM?
Self-Esteem, Self-Worth and Self Image relate to the way we see ourselves and the world around us. The beliefs we have about ourself and the values that we hold all have an impact on the idea we have about who we are.
In childhood through to our teenage years, we are easily influenced by those around us such as our parents or care givers, siblings, friends and so on. The good news is that we can change the view we have and the beliefs that we hold about ourselves by doing the work to challenge these and work on a healthier view of who we really are.
The good news is that you can improve your self-esteem and boost your confidence and counselling can support you with that. When we use counselling for low self-esteem, the key is to understand what the negative messages are that are making you feel the way you do and work on addressing these messages in a safe and supported environment.
“Everybody is a genius, But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid” – Albert Einstein
So, "How can you help me increase my self-esteem, self-confidence and self-worth?"
In our counselling sessions, we’ll work to solve current problems and improve positive thinking. We will look at any unhelpful behaviors and identify patterns and skills to support you going forward.
We will collaboratively to..
Explore the core beliefs that you have about yourself and the world so we can challenge and change these to improve low self esteem.
Explore the significant experiences that have shaped you and how that has impacted your self esteem.
Help you to identify your strengths and build on those which helps to build self esteem and confidence.
Improve self confidence allowing you to feel free to be yourself without worrying about how you might come across to other people.
Gain a difference perspective on things that are causing you distress.
Increase self awareness and improve your quality of life.
Look at healthy boundaries, why they are important and how to set them.
Reduce feelings of guilt, shame and embarrassment.
Be able to feel present in the moment without overthinking and exhausting yourself.
USEFUL STEPS TO HELP YOU TO IMPROVE LOW SELF-ESTEEM AND CONFIDENCE OUTSIDE OF THE COUNSELLING SESSIONS
HAVE A POSITIVE ATTITUDE
In order for us to be able to achieve anything in life, we must believe in ourselves first. To believe that we can achieve incredible things, and that with hard work and determination we will find our own success. If you can find the source of your own self-doubts, you are halfway towards overcoming them. This can really help to improve low self-esteem as when we start to appreciate the smaller things, we open our eyes to the beauty in the world.
Regular exercise can help to boost our mood, it releases feels good hormones which do exactly that, they help us to feel good! Go for a walk, do an exercise class, or do a workout from home. Whatever it is that you enjoy, do it regularly to help improve your physical and mental wellbeing. You can even recruit a friend so that you get a sense of social connection too. Research suggests just a 5 minute walk in nature can boost your overall wellbeing.
PRACTICE SELF CARE
Having a regular routine of selfcare exercises can be really uplifting. Whether that’s scheduling in time for a pampering afternoon, watching your favourite tv shows, listening to music, reading a book or a long hot bath without any interruptions its important to do something for yourself without rushing and have time that’s just for you.
TALK TO FRIENDS OR FAMILY
If you have people in your life who you feel will listen and provide a sounding board for your thoughts and feelings this can be really helpful. This way we can get some feedback on how we are doing, and if anyone tells us that we do have something to learn, then it is our turn to try and improve ourselves. This can help to lift our positive feelings about ourselves and in turn it can improve low self-esteem.
DO SOMETHING WITH A PURPOSE
Try something new, or try something old that you haven’t done for a while. This may sound like common sense, but many of us end up doing things for nothing other than the thrill of doing something different and trying something new. Even if it is only doing your shopping or going for a drive, taking part in something for a reason can activate the reward part of your brain which will make you feel a sense of achievement.
WRITE DOWN YOUR GOALS
If you want to improve your self-esteem, setting realistic goals for yourself could be useful. Whether you are aiming to lose weight, stop smoking, or be more successful in your workplace, you need to set short and achievable targets so that you are motivated to achieve them. Remember, this is your life, and you cannot do everything at once, it takes consistent effort and a long-term plan.